It just hit me, as we were planning my mom's birthday... that she is 70!
Strange... suddenly it hit me that my mom was "old".
Up to the 60s (my mom's age that is), she's always been mom... nagging, bothered abt status and bothering me abt my lack there of, throwing money at my kids... mom.
But 70 is suddenly different.
My aunt just passed away a coupla months ago, and she was 73.
Now that my mom is about to be 70... she's catapulted into a different category - the "old, may not be with you too long, let her indulge in her geriatric dilusions old".
She tries to be nice, although she does it in way that "irritates" me... like throwing money at my kids (how am i going to teach them the value of $, if they get it so easily), like asking me quite a few times- so u dun even get to fly business class ah... (when my bro flies 1st class now), like berating me in front of the relatives.
Somehow, it is always easier to put up with it, when they are old folks not your mom - u give allowance, and nod patiently.
I need to learn to be patient.
Instead of ignoring her questions (I rather just keep quiet, then answer an irritating question), I will try very hard to accomodate her.
I will learn to be grateful and thankful for her generosity (it's her way of showing her love).
I will pray for her, and offer to pray with her.
That's gonna be my birthday present... Happy Birthday Mom.
2 comments:
my brother also facing the same problem with you. i also dun know what to say, be patient....?but see each other everyday ,sometime is not easy.....i alway remind myself, dun nagging when i get old
The 3 little kids not much different from the last time. Do u feed them? When was the photo take?
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